It’s the most wonderful time of the year!
Except for many, it may not feel this way. This time of year may include increased levels of stress, from end-of-the-year work deadlines to more than usual family time.
Many feel an increased sense of stress as another year passes by without bringing a little one into the world as they had hoped for.
Often holiday parties do not help. Whether you are at a Thanksgiving dinner, a work holiday party, a Christmas dinner to a Hanukkah get-together, navigating holiday parties while struggling with infertility can be emotionally challenging.
The Fertility RN and Men’s Helpline have put together some tips to help you.
- Set Boundaries: 💡Decide in advance what you’re comfortable discussing regarding your fertility journey. If you are not interested in talking about your personal life and the details, that’s okay! You can politely let people know if you prefer not to talk about it or share details.
- Have an Exit Plan: ⏳If conversations become uncomfortable or triggering, plan an exit strategy. This might involve having a signal with your partner or a close friend to indicate when it’s time to leave or change the subject.
- Bring a Support Buddy:🌼Bring along a friend or family member who knows about your situation. Having someone there who understands and can offer support can make a huge difference.
- Prepare Responses:💡Go in with an FAQ card and have some prepared responses for common questions or comments.
- Educate:💻 If someone asks you questions, take it as an opportunity to educate them further on the fertility process. More often than not, people are curious and by explaining different parts of the journey (as long as you feel comfortable) it is one step closer to ending the stigma and shame associated with fertility treatment.
- Practice Self-Care:🛀🏼 Prioritizing self-care during this time is key for your physical and mental health. Aim to engage in activities that bring you joy and relaxation, whether it’s reading, exercising, or any hobby that helps you feel grounded.
- Take Breaks if Needed:🚀If you feel overwhelmed during the party, take breaks. Step outside for some fresh air, spend a few minutes in a quiet room, or engage in deep breathing exercises to help manage the stress.
- Consider Alternative Plans:🎈There is no shame in admitting that social gatherings feel more overwhelming than you had hoped. Remember, it’s okay to prioritize your emotional well-being during this time. Give yourself permission to decline invitations or step away from distressing conversations. Take things at your own pace and be kind to yourself as you navigate this challenging period.
Wishing you a happy and healthy holiday!
